How Do You Create Value?!
I'll keep this short and brief - just a quick reminder for myself
- To Create value - first you have to critically assess your behaviors (This will build your value system)
- Then you make sure to build healthy relationships based off that value system
- Then to actually create value align your desires with their desires and start building projects through the areas associated with the job market
- To build projects
What behaviors are Benefiting Myself?
What behaviors are Benefiting Society?
What behaviors are Harming Myself?
What behaviors are Harming Society?
Utilize various AI tools, software tools, and platforms
Utilize Job Market
Utilize University
Utilize Friends
Utilize Skills
Important Information I Don't Want To Forget
True Confidence is being LESS Invested in other people's perception than in the perception of yourself (Non-Neediness)
False/No Confidence is being MORE Invested in other people's perception than in the perception of yourself (Neediness)
Narcissism is NOT being invested in other people's perception at all (Not Caring)
We all practice a little bit of both you just want your Internal Validation > External Validation
In order to practice True Confidence we need to be truly honest with ourselves and others and teach ourselves that it's ok (Vulnerable)
You are who you attract which is the ultimate irony of life. People with similar values are attracted to each other. If you're fake and manipulative then that is who you will attract. If you're honest and genuine then that is who you will attract. But no matter how you behave you will never attract everyone and that is a good thing. In order to attract someone at all you need to polarize them. The truth is that you can't be really attractive to some people without being extremely repulsive to others. But if you never polarize then you will never really be attractive to anyone.
Also Human relationships are very complex, diverse, and multifaced so I take all this stuff with a grain of salt. I don't take any of this stuff really too seriously, but I still try to keep it in the back of my mind.
Behaviors Associated With True Confidence
Internal validation
Internal approval
Non-neediness
Living in the self (Being)
Internal Self-worth
Self-assurance
Self-assessment
Slow and Steady (I think I can)
Strength
Being ok with Rejection
Being Direct
Being Genuine
Being Honest
Being Vulnerable
Respecting yourself
Treating people like human beings
Listening to all perspectives
Telling people you don't like it when they disrespect you - if they continue you will leave
Leaving people when they cross your boundaries
Telling people you genuinely like/love them
Not focusing on entirely complaining and blaming actually proposing solutions to problems
Facts > Emotion
Not hiding your emotions
Not hiding your intentions
Focus on How You Can Help Others > Not How Others Can Perceive You
Being able to handle Difficult things and Difficult situations
Resilience
Working through hardship and pain
Acting in accordance with your values
Behaviors Associated With False Confidence
Constant External Validation
Constant External Approval
Needy
Living in the ego
Trying to Impress People
Showing Off
Being Domineering
Trying to control people
Hiding behaviors/intentions/feelings
Being Fake
Wanting Attention/Likes on Social Media
Perceiving vulnerability as weakness
Weakness due to non-expression of vulnerabilities
Non-genuine
Constant Worrying
Retention Model
Projects Model
Job Market Map
Important Statistics
Psych Notes
Objective value has to do with facts
Subjective value has to do with feelings
Value is either consumed or produced
In order to feel meaningful and useful you need to produce subjective and objective value
In order to love yourself you need to love the objective and subjective value you are producing
True intelligence is understanding how important the things you are consuming and producing are related to your values
Your values are what you believe are harming/helping society and yourself
True Confidence will come from your ability to invest in yourself which comes from being intelligent which comes from be honest with your values in accordance with your producer and consumer behaviors.
People who only produce subjective value will feel useless
People who only produce objective value will feel meaningless
If you feel meaningless you will eventually feel useless and vice versa
People get their subjective/objective value through their job, projects, hobbies, friends, family, and relationships